What does it mean when you say Gender Mainstreaming in FATA

Gender Main streaming is a concept which started being practiced even in the developed countries in late eighties. After decades of working there still is a big gap of income between the genders, and there still are courageous womenin USA andEurope that ask that the is criteria for wages still is what is between your legs ? Gender mainstreaming should aim at empowering the women and leting them have a role in decision making and protecting them against all sorts of violances. Unfortunately some gender practitioners in Pakistan have taken the concept as copying the ways of other people and for gender mainstreaming they are portraying men and women as enemies of each other. Many times the gender main streaming concept is mixed with feminist ideas while gender mainstreaming is not about feminism or masculinities, it rather is understanding both genders need and addressing them in a culturaly sensitive environment.
I have heard from many workers of organizations working on gender mainstreaming that people dont listen to them in the gross root settings. How come ? if you are working for the benefit of some one and they are not listening to you ? At least for me it is strange. And the next step of those workers is they say that people dont listen to us because they are "Ignorant" " Back ward" Illitrate". This sounds funny, we are going to guage peoples understanding and stupidity with our own guage which has never been proved scientifically correct. The people we consider"Ignorant, illiterate and stupid" are producing food for the " civilized citizens" but the civilized citizens consider them ignorant.
People dont listen to these people because these people have repeatedly cheated them, have never took in to consideration their culture and have never capitalized on the existing sociial institute that can play a big role in elimination of gender discrimination and violance.
Those practitioners that believe in revolution but can not bring it, should now change their mind, and start working on evolution. If an ideas has not worked for decades and we are still stuck with that idea, it means there is some problem with that idea. Can we rethink on this, because women, girls and children need our attention and we have to contribute to the solution of their problems. If we are sticking to a concept which does not work, it means we are sticking to it at the cost of those people who can be better off if we rethink and plan some workable solutions for them. This is a food for thought, those people who understand the culture and traditions of FATA, they know what could be utilized with in the existing cultutal system of FATA to eliminate Gender Based violance and discrimination against them.